Being judged always sucks because most people judge by what they see, they won’t even get to know you before they start saying mean things or hurtful things. People judge because of their insecurities or because your doing something outside their comfort zone. It’s really sad to say we have probably all judged someone at some point in our lives for whatever reasons.
Why I decided to talk about being judged is because I am only 24 years old and I have a son who’s almost 5 I had him when I was 19 years old so of course I always go looks and people talking about me because I looked to young to be a mom. What people didn’t know was that I was a good enough mother at 19 then I would have been at 30 years old they didn’t know me or what my life was like. They judged because of what I looked like because I wasn’t a 30 year old mother.
When I had my son I just finished high school and like most 19 year olds they are out drinking and parting and doing whatever they wanted. Of course I was judged I had people who were upset that I could ever think of keeping him and I did have others who did support me. I made my choice though because I knew I would step up to the plate and be the mother he needed. My mom was with me through the entire thing and she always supported me but a few months after he was born we found out my mom had cancer. So from then on I was not only a young parent taking care of my son I was also taking care of my mother ho could barely do anything for herself. I stayed home to care for the both of them and that was never easy.
Where most people my age have the freedom to do whatever they want I decided to be a good parent and stay home with my son and my mother to take care of both of them. I sacrificed a lot of my social life which never really bothered me because I was glad to help and be a good mother. I did all the cleaning and shopping and meal prepping and taking care of a baby and my mom. If you just saw me on the street no one would know that most people would probably think I am a young mom so I probably leave my son at home every weekend to go out well guess what that doesn’t happen often so you can’t always judge a book by its cover.
I have gone through so much the past few years and I have only grown stronger since day one. I am proud of the mother I have become and whatever you have gone through you should never let people judge you because they don’t know your story.
My son is going on a field trip in 2 weeks before school ends and because the permission forms came home I emailed the teacher telling her I would like to volunteer and go on the trip with them and she told me she would get back to me. We got the form and a paper saying they needed volunteers and to bring back the filled out form I again filled out the form also stating I would like to volunteer. I haven’t heard anything back but what really bothers me is that other moms want to go to but even though I told the teacher a head of time I probably still won’t be picked to come because of my age and the way I look most likely she will pick an older mom who she thinks is more responsible. How sad is that?
Now that my son has started school I started working with kids in a daycare and I have just applied to school to become an ECE. I am very capable of coming and taking care of kids I do it everyday but his teacher doesn’t know that because she just judges what she sees.
My point is that please don’t judge people before getting to know them and never let people put you down when they don’t know your story. This is the world we live in and it truly is sad but keep your chins up it only makes us stronger. 👊
BethanyAnne 